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The Top 10 Challenges To Midlife Vitality For Women

The Top 10 Challenges To Midlife Vitality For Women

1) As grownups, most of us have actually programmed the possibility for joy out of our lives by seeking a “hassle-free” existence. We are constantly looking for comfort and security instead of something that will challenge and make us grow.

2) It takes a lot of courage to cultivate an attitude of play with the important and serious things in our adult life. But since joy is our North Star, we have to develop the discipline of joy and learn how to play at life again and stop taking ourselves so seriously.

3) Many of us became who we thought we should be according to the standards of others. We became “nice” vs. “authentic” without even realizing it.

4) We are relational human beings and are often afraid of how our decisions will affect others. Consequently, most of us have invested disproportionately in the dreams, lives, and plans of others, while obscuring and detouring our own.

5) Many of us have assumed that we are somehow inadequate and inferior because we aren’t able to achieve, have, or be what we want. Often enough, the problem is not us! We just lack “healthy” life skills, information, guidance, support, and role models.

6) We often avoid conflict and squelch ourselves because we weren’t shown how to communicate our needs and desires cleanly, gracefully, and lovingly – which is all we ever wanted anyway. “There’s nothing that will send a woman to the refrigerator quicker than an inability to stand up for herself.” Cheryl Richardson

7) Most of us never learned how to dress our own wounds. Life is a wild frontier, as well as an exciting adventure. We would never think of going on an extended hiking/camping adventure without having the equipment and knowing how to care for ourselves when get hurt!

8) We weren’t taught how to read our emotions as communication from our authentic self. We weren’t encouraged to listen to ourselves as much as we were advised to listen to others. Often enough, we were encouraged to ignore, squelch, and overcompensate for our strong emotions instead.

9) We ended up being part of other people’s life dramas because we fell blindly into them and it’s extremely hard to detach ourselves once we are in them. However, there are so many of us in this boat, that through supportive communities, we are learning how to raise each other up and experience the view from higher ground – get a broader perspective.

10) Many women are much more comfortable helping others with their problems than helping themselves. When they do start helping themselves and begin thriving, they may find out that some of their friends and family are threatened by their changes. Support is crucial during these times.
Enchanted Blessings ~
Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas

My Life Fell Apart At 51~ Here’s What I Did

Nine years ago I left a 10 year relationship that was draining me financially and emotionally.

Even though I am a smart, self aware, conscious woman like yourself, I found myself in a huge midlife crisis. I had been working in the field of women’s empowerment my entire life, trained with Debbie Ford to become a Shadow Integration Coach(tm) and much more so it was extremely humbling!!

It was a huge wake up call showing me that I was living from my Socialized Self and not my Authentic Soul.

* I had confused self confidence with arrogance.
* I was dimming my own light in order for him to feel good.
* I was far more comfortable giving than receiving.

Some of the very first steps I did in order to crawl out of the situation I found myself in were:

* I took back my power and energy by affirming that I was not broken, had done nothing wrong, and that this was a Midlife Sacred Rite of Passage.

* I connected with a part of myself that would grant me permission to start being true to myself, find my own voice again, and begin a path of self love. I called this my Midlife Fairy Godmother.

* I made a strong intention to learn how to love and care for myself the way that I cared for others.

* I started to take baby steps to begin living from my Authentic Soul.

Can you relate to anything that I’ve shared with you in this email? Is there a challenge that you are going through in your life that you feel may be a wake up call?

I would LOVE to hear from you! Please send an email to:

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~ Enchanted Blessings Dear Women,

Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas ~ Midlife Fairy Godmother(tm)

Empowering smart, self aware women to transform their midlife challenges into a sacred rite of passage leading to a re-enchantment with life.

Beginning My Journey To Self Empowerment In Midlife

Whether you have been with me for many years or have just joined me recently, you probably know some of the personal challenges that I experienced in midlife that made me feel like I fell into a deep, dark hole that I couldn’t get out of.

I didn’t resist those challenges, but actually used them as stepping stones to climb out and experience a complete transformation in body, mind, and spirit. I’m now 60 and living the life I have always dreamed of.

That’s why I’m taking this time to let you know that I am getting ready to send a series of emails with some new information to smart, self aware women in midlife (35 – 60 or so) who are wanting to transform their challenges into a very empowering sacred rite of passage.

I have been working all through the spring and summer on something that will free your true spirit and speak to your soul no matter what you are going through in your midlife transition.

I will begin sending the information in a couple of days so stay tuned to the five emails that will introduce you to the transformation that is possible on this sacred passage.

~ Enchanted Blessings Dear Women,
Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas ~ Midlife Fairy Godmother(tm)

Empowering smart, self aware women to transform their midlife challenges into a sacred rite of passage leading to a re-enchantment with life.

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