Midlife Fairy Dust Magic for Second Half Bliss
Turning Midlife
Challenges Into Catalysts For Rebirth And Renewal
The Midlife Fairy
Godmothers Monthly Online Newsletter
March 2004
Full of tips, tools, and treasures for women (35 -
60) who are becoming their own fairy godmothers in
midlife.
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CONTENTS OF THIS ISSUE
Topic Of The Month:
Using Change As A Catalyst For Blossoming In Midlife
Midlife Book Of The
Month Review: "It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start
Now", Barbara Sher
"Let's Talk": Free
Monthly Community Call On The Second Tuesday Of Every
Month, Tuesday April 13, 7:00 - 8:00 PM eastern. (see
below for more information
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Topic Of The Month
Using Change As A Catalyst For Blossoming In Midlife
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Well, it looks like
you will be receiving the March and April both in one
month! I have been playing "catch up" with my life
lately. As many of you know, I left my partner of ten
years last fall. Everything is new in my life. The only
thing that is the same is my home, my family and
friends. I wake up every morning grateful for my health
(which is fantastic now), my environment, and my
supportive communities.....oh ya, and my grandchildren!!
When any of us are
experiencing a change which brings with it a loss of
identity and familiar way of life, all of our "issues"
come up. It can make us feel like we're swimming in a
sea of uncertainty. There is a tendency for most of us
to want to quickly fill that void so that we don't have
to feel the feelings that the change brings up.
Quite often when we
lose someone or something, we feel a range of negative
emotions. Feeling these emotions is healing and a
necessary part of letting go. If we don't know how to
heal our own heart, we will continue to want what we
can't have anymore. When we hold on to what is no longer
available, we are at the same time pushing away our
promising future. When it is time to change, we must be
able to let go because that is what will open the door
to more. Change becomes painful when we can't let go.
When we suffer a
loss or setback in midlife, the cause of our suffering
is attachment to what no longer is. What we need to do
is find love in our hearts again. We are not longing for
that particular person or thing, what we are longing for
is the experience that the person or thing provided for
us. When we lose access to that support and love, we
disconnect from our inner selves. The good news is,the
support to reconnect with ourselves can be found
elsewhere!
In my own healing
from my breakup, I have been filling my own "love well"
through a process that I will share below. It is the
most nurturing, healing, empowering process I have ever
used to reconnect with my inner self.
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7 Steps To Fill Your Own Love Well
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There are many ways
to fill our own love well. Prayer, meditation,
contemplation, inspirational tapes and books are some
ways. The most powerful way that I have personally
experienced is through a process that Carl Jung termed,
"active imagination". We can actually use our minds to
invoke a healing presence and then give it a face and a
form. I have healed myself from chronic illness and have
done extensive work with Debbie Ford (author of "Dark
Side Of The Light Chasers") and others teachers learning
how to invoke this kind of healing presence. This vision
behind Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises came to me
spontaneously in this form! She was my healing presence,
my soul self and I knew other women could relate to her.
The insight that we can give ourselves what we have
longed for from the outside world is a concept whose
time has come!
Our bodies and
psyches don't know the difference between experiencing a
healing in real life or in our imaginations! I use
guided inner journeys using "active imagination" in the
work I do with women over the telephone and in
ceremonies. You can also do it for yourself. Here's how.
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List all of the
qualities you would love your inner Fairy Godmother-
ultimate healer, nurturer, comforter, etc. to have.
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List all of the qualities or experiences that you
want to be filled up with. "I want to feel deeply
loved, understood, respected, adored, appreciated,
healed, whole, etc.
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Put on some music, light a candle, make sure you
are undisturbed.
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Close your eyes and begin to feel the qualities
and experiences you listed in #1 and 2.
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Ask for a loving image to show itself to you.
This can come in many ways and there is no right or
wrong. I love to use the image of the Fairy
Godmother because she symbolizes the Wise Woman
Healer archetype, the Sage, The Inner Shaman, etc.
- Imagine yourself letting go into her arms.
Imagine that she is the ultimate healer. What do you
want to tell her? What are you willing to release
into her arms? What do you need from her? Allow
yourself to have the experience of being filled up
with her love.
- When you are done. Thank her and allow her to go
back to her home. Slowly awaken and journal as much
as you can.
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Midlife Book Of The Month Review
"It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now,
How To Create Your Second Life After 40"
Barbara Sher
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When I was on my midlife healing
sabbatical for five years, Barbara Sher was one of the
countless authors I read who write about reexamining,
reassessing, reenvisioning, recreating, and
rediscovering yourself in midlife. There are many very
prolific writers on the subject! Her first book, "Wishcraft"
is a classic and mine is old and worn with food marks
and marking all over it.
In this book, she specifically addresses
midlife and shows us that it's never too late to start
over. In fact, she claims midlife is the ideal time to
do so! It is "...a time when dreams of the future and
experiences of the past finally come together." The best
is yet to be says Barbara, because it would have been
impossible to make crucial insights until now. It is
full of exercises, step by step strategies, and
motivational techniques. It's never too late to reclaim
your creativity, your energy, and your dreams....if you
start now that is. Barbara published her first book at
age forty-four!!!!!! What a role model.
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"Let's Talk Midlife Empowerment!"
Free Midlife Fairy Godmothers Community Call - Second
Tuesday Of Every Month
Tuesday, April 13, 7:00 - 8:00 PM (eastern time)
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Get a cup of tea, put your feet up, I
will be on the call to great you as you call in, and
let's talk about midlife issues for women. Society has
viewed this period of a woman's life as a potential
downward spiral of fading productivity, usefulness,
influence, power, and beauty. It is time for us to claim
the wise women archetype in midlife! If we don't,
society and the media certainly will not. So it is up to
us. What are some of the challenges that women are
facing? What can we do to help ourselves? What are the
opportunities?
For $2.19 cents you can get the whole
hour if you dial 1010987. If you already have a good
long distance plan, the conference line is: 1 413 370
0333 extension 485.
Enchantingly,
Daina Puodziunas - Just call me Dinah,
Midlife Fairy Godmother
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