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Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises™ Newsletter
Welcome to the September, 2006 Issue of the
Midlife Fairy Godmothers™ Online Newsletter
Tips, tools, and treasures for leading edge, midlife women who are ready to become their own fairy godmothers and give themselves permission to be there for themselves the way they always have been for others.
If you wish to unsubscribe, you can do so by clicking here: ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Article Of The Month: "Breaking The Spell Of 'Shoulds' In Your Life" Women's Wisdom Retreat & Sacred Goddess Sweat: Saturday, October 7, 2006. 1:00-11:00 pm Eastern time. This retreat is held at my home by Grand Rapids, Michigan on 40 acres with a private lake and costs $75.00. You are welcome to camp, stay at close motels, or on a sleeping bag. You can click here for details: http://www.Midlifefairygodmothers.com/Womens-Wisdom-Retreats.htm Ongoing Midlife Support Group in Rockford, Michigan: Wednesdays from 6:00-8:00 pm. Come to one or all. This group is going so well that I am setting up a support group using email and a telephone conference line in October (read below for details.) If you are interested in the one in Rockford, email me at Dinah@Midlifefairygodmothers.com and put Open Mind in the subject line.New members very welcome!! ~*~*~Personal Message From Dinah~*~*~ I had a magical time celebrating the fall equinox alone this week. Tornado warnings were in the area and the energy felt like it was swirling around the land in every direction. The light in the sky was a deep yellow and the animals appeared to be surrounding my home. 10 wild turkeys formed a line facing north even though the rain was pounding on them. A large raccoon was in the south looking out over the lake. It was one of those magical moments when time seems to stand still. During the storm I lit my brand new wood stove for the first time. This new hearth symbolizes my new life. My old one was purchased when I found myself starting over at another time in my life. I had just gotten divorced and was a single parent with two little children over 20 years ago. The hearth is a powerful symbol of the heart of the home. It is centrally located in my home and is a powerful tool I use to help me naturally connect with my own center and with all the women from the beginning of time who would light their hearth before their families would wake up in the morning, cook on them, and use them to nurture their families on many levels. My hearth has helped me connect with some form of deep primal wisdom and brought me much comfort for many years. Now along with my new life, I have a new hearth. I danced around it and watched the flickering flames bounce against the ivory walls. I prayed, sang, celebrated, and gave thanks for many things. Gerry and Esther Hicks of Abraham fame http://www.abraham-hicks.com were in close proximity (Detroit) and I communed with the Abraham energy all day as I am huge "Abe head" for over 10 years now. On another note, the women in the midlife support circle that I facilitate here in Michigan continue to amaze me with their willingness to mix courageous actions with copious amounts of self love. The goddess is alive and well inside their hearts! Many will be experiencing their very first sweat in a few weeks. It will ignite those deep primal fires of connection to the earth, to themselves, and to each other. They are also helping me continue birthing "Midlife Magick(tm)" as I try various concepts and applications on them. Magick as in "real" inner alchemy vs. "stage magic." Mark Silver http://Heartofbusiness.com is a profound Sufi master who teaches business design from within and has been very helpful in supporting my connection to "The Grandmothers" - the personification of ancient women's wisdom from the beyond ~ where all this information comes to me from. Hard to explain such things sometimes. That's my best shot at the moment. I also learned that I will be a grandmother again in March (my birth month.) This will be my fourth grandchild. I could write volumes to you on what I learn about myself and life from playing with my grandchildren every week! What a gift I have been given! I send an outpouring of love to each of you. I miss a voice connection and have been thinking about starting up some new monthly or bi-monthly community calls this winter where we come together and discuss changes, challenges and possible solutions. Let me know if this sounds at all interesting to you. In Love & Enchantment ~ Daina (Dinah) Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises tm ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Breaking The Spell Of "Shoulds" In Your Life One of the most challenging things a woman deals with in her life is her inner should voice. Our should voice comes up any time we are feeling a split between what we want and what we think we should want. This creates a split in our energy, a push/pull, an inner battle, a lot of stress, and is one of the main reasons we can't move forward with something. So as part of our rebirth and renewal in midlife, it's an important aspect of ourselves to become aware of and develop powerful tools to transform our "shoulds." Otherwise, these "shoulds" will be running our lives a lot of the time without us realizing it. They get louder when we begin focusing on what is important to us. That seems to be the case for most of us women. When we are ruled by our "shoulds," we are constantly falling short of our expectations. No matter what we do, it's not good enough, we're not good enough, and what we get is never enough in our eyes. This is incredibly energy draining. One woman in group realized that she had agreed to fill certain roles within her family, her organizations, and with her friends simply because she wanted them to know what a good, nice, responsible, charitable, loving woman she was. She knew she was, but felt this was the only way they would know. Does any of this sound familiar to you? This example is why I always acknowledge how much courage it takes for women to begin loving, caring for, listening to, and trusting themselves in midlife. I call us "heart warriors" because we are going against the large should voice of societal conditioning and the opinions of others. It takes a lot of support to get us up and over that fear of being rejected, unloved, unappreciated etc. It feels like a spell because it goes so deep and is so automatic and unconscious! Our should voice is not our own authentic voice that comes from a connection to our deeper wisdom. A good deal of it was developed because well meaning teachers, parents, religion, and other authority figures just wanted to instill good values in us. Why it doesn't work is because when we do things from our should voice instead of our authentic voice it zaps our energy and all actions that follow are driven by a heavy, negative, fearful energy. It totally pulls us out of our center. Where we are "coming from" (our intention) is the single most important thing to pay attention to as we navigate our way through life. It influences EVERYTHING that follows. Becoming conscious of whether we are "coming from" a "should" voice or our authentic voice is a powerful step towards freedom, inner peace, vitality, and genuine happiness. If you are ready to be your own midlife fairy godmother and break the spell of "shoulds" in your life, here is a good place to start. ~*~*~*~*~*~Eliminating "Shoulds" Exercise ~*~*~*~*~* The point of this exercise is to make your "shoulds" conscious and decide which ones are yours and which aren't. Then you can choose to get rid of the ones that don't serve you or don't reflect your own desires. After that you can update the ones you want to keep by making them your own ~ ones that come from your authentic soul. This is very freeing and energizing. 1) Begin by listing as many "shoulds" as you can think of. It might look something like this: I should be more successful by now. I should be making more money by now. I should know what I want to do with the rest of my life. I should be a better mother, wife, friend etc. I should have more energy. I should be in better shape. I should have written a book by now. I should go back to school. 2) Look back over your list and with each should ask yourself, "Whose should is this anyway?" Do YOU want this or does your husband, children, church, women's group, friend, mother, father want this for you? Is it your guilt talking? Ask yourself, "Are these things that I want for myself or are they someone else's demands?" Figure out which voice is shoulding on you and cross off the ones that aren't yours. 3) Transform your "shoulds" into a voice from your authentic soul. When we do this we feel the power in the decision, we feel clear, we are energized, inspired, and empowered. Take each should that you want to keep and make it your own by replacing the word should, with could, want to, would love to, have decided to, have the energy to, am going to, am ready to etc. Feel the shift in your energy. Notice how your body responds. Tune in and take note of ANYTHING that you notice about how you feel after you reword the should. Have fun with this transformative process and add new "shoulds" as you recognize them in operation in your day to day life. Blessings On Your Sacred Journey, Dinah ~*~*~*~Virtual Midlife Support Group~*~*~*~
Enchantingly, Daina Puodziunas ~ (Dinah) Join the free Adventurers Club and receive a monthly newsletter, community calls, and much more: Dinah@MidlifeFairyGodmothers.com *************************************************** |
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