Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises
In The News
My
Fairy Godmother
By Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas
This article was published on
Phenomenews.com.
**************************
First Half Wisdom
Into Second Half Bliss
by Daina Puodziunas
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be
lived forwards.
Soren Kierkegaard
The unexamined life is not worth living.
Socrates
The old rules of midlife no longer fit us. Our midlife is not our
mother’s midlife by any stretch of the imagination. Once again, our
generation is on the leading edge of change in our society. It’s not an easy
place to be, but it is certainly an exciting place. I encourage you to
refuse to listen to the media’s twist on age and claim your power by
creating and playing by your own rules instead.
Midlife women are using this time to reflect, rethink, release, renew,
rewire and refresh their lives. This is an amazingly powerful time in
history and in your own personal midlife herstory as well. What I want to
focus on in this issue is step #1 of the “6 Steps To Midlife Magick ™ For
Second Half Bliss” - a wonderful formula for what I call inner alchemy.
Which is exactly what it is. We are turning lead into gold.
Do you find yourself asking, “Have I done the right thing with my life?”
This question can become a source of nagging worry and can even breed self
doubt which can poison the second half of your life. The answer is; of
course you have. Your life reflects your originality in how you have
responded to everything you have encountered. If you don’t appreciate what
you’ve done with your life so far, it deserves closer examination.
Even if you decide to make radical changes, there’s a logic in your past
choices that gives you important clues to what is important to you and to
who you are deep down in your soul. You are exactly where you are supposed
to be and coming to that realization can bring you an enormous amount of
peace and freedom.
Everything was educating you in your first half. The point in midlife is
to excavate this wisdom and make it conscious because most of it has been
unconscious. The next step is to understand that now you can create
something first-rate from this knowledge in your second half.
I believe that sharing our stories with each other and excavating the
wisdom found within them is one of the greatest gifts we can give to
ourselves, each other and the world in midlife. I felt like a failure at
many things in my life, had tons of guilt and was very unforgiving of myself
until I began to extract the pearls which wouldn’t be there without the
irritant of the sand. That irritant can be a bad relationship, bad work
environment or bad choices.
I’ve lead what appears to be a very strange kind of life to many people
and I felt a bit vulnerable sharing it especially here in the Midwest. But
there is an affirmative phrase that I created for myself which goes: “I have
the courageous vulnerability of a heart warrior.” Love that!
One of my challenges is a very active mind coupled with very strong
emotions. This has caused me great anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive worry
and guilt. Having some very challenging people in my life only fueled the
fire. Yikes! This then led to an autoimmune disease and seizures.
What I learned was that because of this powerful combination, I am able
to focus on and manifest things that I want in my life. I had to learn how
to take these “irritants” that felt like a curse I got from two parents that
are extremely artistic, sensitive, smart, quick and intuitive and learn how
to focus them in a positive way. I also learned how I could harness the
power of my mind and emotions to heal myself without any medications.
Because of my experiences I am the perfect guide to help women navigate
their midlife passage.
What wisdom can you extract from the first half of your life? Think of it
as an exciting expedition and then share bits and pieces of it with other
women. We need each to blossom in our second half. We really do... and
sharing stories is the most powerful way of doing this! Check out the web
site of the month (below) and how Dotsie Bregel is assisting women in doing
just that.
Enchanted Wisdom
Six coaching questions for excavating the wisdom from the first half of
your life:
1. When have you experienced a challenging, painful or difficult time in
your life that ended up being a blessing in disguise?
2. What did you end up learning how to do?
3. What was the belief about yourself or life that ended up getting
transformed?
4. What was the new belief that ended up being created?
5. How did this experience help you later on in your life?
6. How did it help you move outside your comfort zone?
Daina Puodziuna (Dinah - Midlife Fairy Godmother) has an online business
providing midlife crisis coaching and Tele-Class
s to women who are ready
to experience the magic of rebirth and renewal in midlife. She has studied
with Debbie Ford and at Coachville to become a life coach. Her website is
www.MidlifeFairyGodmothers.com She can
be reached at
Dinah@MidlifeFairyGodmothers.com.
**************************
This article was published on Jennifer Louden's site.
Jennifer Louden is owner of Comfort Queens Inc. You can view this on her
site at:
http://www.comfortqueen.com/results.html?488
**************************
The doctor said it was rheumatoid arthritis combined with seizures. He
said that the way things were progressing I would find myself in a
wheelchair in less than two years. I was in my late thirties, a single
supermom of two daughters, solopreneur, and actively involved with designing
alternative healing/empowerment ceremonies and practices for women. Little
did I know that I would be using every ounce of knowledge imparted to others
for myself.
The doctor’s words shot terror into my veins. Until that day I treated
myself like I was immortal. I drove myself like many women do. I literally
chopped wood to heat my solar efficient home which I designed and helped
build on 40 breathtaking acres on a private lake in rural Michigan. I was so
proud of all that I had accomplished and it all felt like it was going to be
taken away from me. The thought of never being able to dance again brought
enormous heartache.
I realized that in a healthy society we would have places for
people to go and be totally nourished and cared for when they hit bottom
like I did. But our society is big on patching people up quickly, taking
care of symptoms and sending them back out into their lives again ...until
the next problem surfaces. So I decided to give myself what my society
didn't have to offer in the form of a midlife sabbatical. It was my gift to
myself.
After my daughters went to live with their father I stopped my
contemporary life. I owned my home so I took out a home equity loan and
simplified my life tremendously. I literally unplugged from society: no
newspapers, no television for five years. I left unhealthy relationships,
and reexamined my entire life. I read hundreds of books and wrote nearly as
many journals.
Nature has always been my church and my home was cradled by her. I
meditated on the words of my beloved mystics with walking meditations. I
learned how to be in the silence and not resist the pain which was
horrendous, but to accept it and go into it as I did in natural childbirth.
I knew I could trust my mind/body/spirit/ nature connection now as well.
As the years of the sabbatical went by, I began to experience a peace
that I never knew before. When I didn't resist the pain, it felt like
someone was taking it and replacing it with warmth, love, compassion. The
more I was able to stop any resistance and let it go into what felt like the
hands of the Divine Mother, the less pain there was.
The seizures stopped early on and I was slowly becoming pain free. I
continued to use the mind/body/spirit/nature connection by combining healing
music which stimulated certain areas of the brain with visual art. My body’s
response was amazing. At times it felt like waves of ecstasy were moving
through my veins.
I kept being drawn inward to what I call the inner beloved, literally the
love of my life, breath of my breath, bone of my bone... the essence of who
I am as a soul. It was there that I met my inner goddess/divine mother. She
revealed herself to me one day in a vision. I saw myself playing on the
beach as a little girl. I heard some loud clapping and looked up to see
where it was coming from. There was a fairy godmother perched up on a cliff.
She looked like a grandmother with wings. The minute I laid my eyes on
her, I could feel a love so huge, so unconditional that it filled every cell
of my body. She was delighting in my every move, my every breath, my
presence. There was nothing I needed to do to have her love, just be myself,
playing and dancing on the beach. I realized that I was having the
experience that each and every human being longs for...to be accepted and
delighted in just for being human.
One day while I fell asleep cradled in her arms, I dreamt she christened
me Daina, Song of Joy. Daina, pronounced Dinah, is my real name which means
song in Lithuanian. She told me her name was Sasha. The greatest thing that
I learned in my healing was that joy is the reason we are alive. We were
created to enjoy this earth and in this way we give the greatest thanks we
are able to give to our Creator. The Creator delights in our joys...our
dancing, creating, and playing. Our goal in life is to become as little
children using the trials and challenges we experience in finding our way
back home.
I kept experiencing Sasha in my visions and she has guided me in my
second career helping women access and work with these types of inner
archetypes to heal, to receive inner wisdom, and to learn how to play again
in midlife. I turned 50 this year and I designed Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises
and am dancing and playing every step of the way!
Daina (Dinah) Puodziunas is provides telephone coaching, workshops, and
small groups for women who are starting over in midlife because of divorce,
job loss, illness, empty nest, or other forms of midlife crisis. Sign up for
her free e-newsletter at
http://Midlifefairygodmothers.com,
email
Dinah@midlifefairygodmothers.com,
or phone her at (616) 7549672.
**************************
*** MIDLIFE FAIRY GODMOTHERS ADVENTURERS CLUB -
Click here to join
and receive a free online monthly newsletter full of tools,
tips, and treasures of midlife magick for second half bliss, free access
to a monthly telephone community call, discount coupons for tele-classes
and the School Of Enchantment, and more.
*** ONLINE/PHONE WORKSHOPS, GROUPS, CLASSESusing a conference line from the comfort and convenience of your home.
Click here to register
for
Tele-Class.
*** MIDLIFE COACHING -
Click here
for
a free 40 minute chat to explore discovering your passion and purpose,
design a second career or lifestyle that feeds your heart and soul, stop
your perfectionism or procrastination and start feeling momentum and
excitement.
***MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKING AND IN PERSON WORKSHOPS -
Click here
to receive information on having me come to your organization, retreat,
or church.
My email list is never given or sold to anyone for any reason. You
can unsubscribe at any time. All times are Eastern Standard Time.
© MidlifeFairyGodmothers (™) 2006.
Email
dinah@midlifefairygodmothers.com
http://www.midlifefairygodmothers.com
Phone: 1-616-754-9672
Cedar Springs, MI 49319
