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Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises™ Newsletter
Welcome to the April 2005 Issue of the
Midlife Fairy Godmothers™ Online Newsletter
Tips, tools, and treasures for leading edge, midlife women who dare to become their own fairy godmothers to bridge the gap between desire, deserving, and divinity for an enchanted life.
If you wish to unsubscribe, you can do so by clicking here: ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Article Of The Month: "Bridging The Gap Between Desire, Deserving, and Divinity" "Discovering Your Authentic Soul In Midlife" Tele-class: Are you wondering why it's so hard for you to figure out what you want in life? Like most of us, you have probably lost touch with who you are without even realizing it. In order to figure out what you want, you first have to remember who you are! Midlife Coaching Test Pilot: I am offering a coaching special in April, May, and June for anyone who is stuck in their transition and would like to discover the core beliefs that keep them stuck. You will also receive some proven, very effective ways to move through them. ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ I started an interesting journey around the first of February. I felt stuck in one aspect of my work with Midlife Fairy Godmother Enterprises (tm) and went into prayer and introspection asking for answers. I immediately got a message that I needed to clear out some stuff in order to make room for the new. The message was that my head was all filled up and there was no room for anything new to reach me! Yikes. As I looked around at all the stacks of materials that I had been designing for years, the tax records/receipts from 1980 to the present, the piles of research/ideas/quotes, and files of other things that I know will some day prove useful, I could feel the truth of the message sinking in. "Yikes....where do I start", was my response? "Start with one thing that you know you can do this week", was the reply. I cringed but decided to tackle the tax records. Two large garbage bags later, I felt much was accomplished. I took them to the burn barrel and proceeded to conduct a small but meaningful ceremony ending one phase of my life and making room for the new one. It was bitter sweet and I allowed myself the full range of emotions as I watched it all burn. The following week my ex-husband who has a professional drywall repair business showed me the water damage done to my walls. To make a long story short, I ended up moving the entire contents of my home into my lower level and all my walls were repaired and repainted without costing me a dime. Insurance covered everything. He also asked for forgiveness for all the pain he had caused me in my life. I couldn't believe it. I divorced him 22 years ago! I looked around at all the empty space and knew that this was the ideal time to get a real floor in my home. I have been repainting my sub floor with porch and deck paint every five years for 20 years while dreaming of a hard wood floor. A few calls and everything clicked into place in the most amazing ways! Again, I won't go into the details but it was obvious that the universe was extremely supportive again of the energy that I was engaged in. I have now started the process of deliberately selecting each item I want to include in my new life and which one will be sold at a yard sale. Interestingly enough I have done this selection process with my time, my friends, partners, work, organizations, and money, but not with my physical possessions. It is bitter sweet as I go through my children's art work, photo albums, toys, and so on. These are all the items that belong to the first half of my life and I am making room now for new dreams, new adventures, and new ideas. Because of all the chaos, I had to stop working on my business projects (maybe some of you are able to multi task to this degree, but my head was swimming out of control)! I did manage to maneuver around enough to facilitate a most inspiring international group of women who gathered for the 'Discovering Your Authentic Soul In Midlife' tele-class in February! It was rich, dynamic, and very fulfilling. Guess what happened with the aspect of my work I felt stuck with? The answer found it's way to me in the most enchanting way!! I knew it was the answer because of how I could feel it click inside of my body. It was the missing piece for my business that I was working on all year. I am in awe and totally enchanted by the way everything unfolded from my one decision to follow the guidance my prayers led me to. Now it is April and the spring time of my life is upon me! I feel so much passion and excitement while I wait in anticipation of what is next. Take a moment to check in with yourself at this time in your midlife transition. Is it time for you to do some clearing out of the old in order to make room for something that is trying to reach you but can't? Go within and just allow yourself to be receptive. Ask for one thing you can do, then trust the answer and do it. Keep trusting the process as it unfolds while maintaining an attitude of enchantment, awe, and wonder! Dinah ~ Midlife Fairy Godmother ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Most of the time I spend in midlife transition coaching isn't devoted to helping women get what they want. Women are amazing in how creative, resourceful, ambitious, and ingenious they are when they know what they want. Give them some solid advice on goals and intentions, some delicious support, a handful of resources and they are off and running. Just look around you at how competent most women are. They will run circles around anyone with a baby in one arm, a calculator in the other, while pushing the car door shut with their foot! The place where most midlife women are stuck in moving forward with their lives is in identifying what they want. To do this, they must reexamine their internalized beliefs that wanting/desire is selfish/bad and start becoming enchanted with their desires. There is no better time to do this than in midlife. Why? Because this unconscious resistance to becoming aware of our own wants blocks access to our sense of purpose, inspiration, motivation, and excitement for life. These qualities are life force itself. Life force is another name for God/ess, prana, love. As part of our midlife passage, the greatest gift we can give ourselves is to figure out how to access and summon our life force energy. If we can figure that out, we have the secret to the fountain of youth in the palm of our hands quite literally. By the time we are adolescents most of us have replaced our desires with reasons we shouldn't want what we want. Some examples of internalized messages that are running in the form of beliefs are; "I'll never get what I want so thinking about it would only frustrate me. If I never want anything, I'll never be disappointed." This equation of desire with punishment and pain is understandable, but misguided. The way that we summon and access life force energy is through desire. So becoming conscious of how we block our desires, learning how open up to them, and become enchanted with them is the way that we become our own fairy godmother in midlife. When we do this we are bridging the gap between desire, deservedness (fairy godmothers get to make up words), and divinity for ourselves. We become a living conduit between heaven and earth which is the core purpose of humanity. Discovering what you want in midlife, your life purpose, meaning, and direction doesn't come in a big flash. That's a big misconception. Many of us think that if we find the right formula, take the right test, have the right mentor, say the right prayer the gates will be opened up for us. Instead it comes to us in bits and pieces as we learn how to go deeper into the answers we find through the enchantment process with our desires. Like Hansel and Gretel finding their way back home from the dark forest, our desires guide us in long, loosely connected trails of gold nuggets as we dare to explore them. The longing for one thing leads to another and another. Sometimes we find an entire treasure chest! During my five year midlife sabbatical, I did a lot of this. At first only desires like peace on earth, well being for children, feeding the hungry came forth. This is very common for women. When I gave myself permission to go deeper into my unbridled passions, I had to go through a scary gate of selfishness, inappropriateness, and shame!! But I promise you, if you are willing to be radically honest with yourself and keep going, you will find the gold on the other side. I found out that I loved to perform. What I especially liked about it was interacting with the audience. Remerging the fun and engagement of being a class clown in grade school pointed me to the juice public speaking and facilitating groups has for me. I also love the attention (something we are taught is bad). I learned that I love working in an environment that makes me feel like I am on vacation. I feel like I am playing then. I also need my work and living environment to be surrounded by the wilds of nature. I am at one with my divinity and the wild woman inside of me then. My little girl is delighted too! I discovered I love working for myself because I can navigate and negotiate everything in my life. I get to say what is important, valuable, and meaningful to me and build my life around those things. With each new discovery, I put up a picture on the enchanted treasure map of my new life. On and on it went until I had an enchanting new life designed. It continues to unfold as I allow myself to want what I want through being my own fairy godmother. What I can tell you is that no one can do it for you. In fact many will try to discourage you. They may even be the ones who tell you that they care about you the most. Exploring every one of your desires with a welcoming and curious mind (which I call the art of enchantment) is probably something you have never done. Are you courageous enough to allow yourself to do this......to face the inner demons that want you to live a contained, safe, and predictable life? Begin to let the sweet ache of longing become familiar to you. Let it call you back home. Enchantingly, Daina Puodziunas - Just call me Dinah, Midlife Fairy Godmother Join the free Adventurers Club and receive a monthly newsletter, community calls, and much more: Dinah@MidlifeFairyGodmothers.com *************************************************** |
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